5 Messages that are not going anywhere
In this age of quick and easy messaging sometimes we wonder which ones are worth paying attention to and which ones just pass the time. These are five forms of messaging that are not leading anywhere serious.
In this age of quick and easy messaging sometimes we wonder which ones are worth paying attention to and which ones just pass the time. These are five forms of messaging that are not leading anywhere serious.
We have all been at the point in a relationship where we know it is time for it to end, but we cannot seem to bring ourselves to end it. We hold on even though we should let go. Knowing why can help you address your hesitations and move forward to the next chapter.
This is the time of year that our New Year’s Resolutions start to wear off. We start to fall back to our old ways and we continue with our stressful ways. Now is the time to take a minute and readjust our pace and keep the year on track and less stressful. Here are eleven things for your new year:
When two people meet and fall in love, there’s a sudden rush of magic. Magic is just naturally present then. We tend to feed on that gratuitous magic without striving to make any more. One day we wake up and find that the magic is gone. We hustle to get it back, but by then it’s usually too late, we’ve used it up. What we have to do is work like hell at making additional magic right from the start. ~Tom Robbins
Every day is another day that you can do something to change your life. Every day you can make small steps to improve how you feel from yesterday. It does not take grand sweeping gestures. Just small mindful choices in our day can make a big difference in how we feel and help us feel younger.
Breakups are hard. It does not matter if it was your choice or theirs. If it was someone you loved, then you do not enjoy being the one hurting them or the one left behind hurting. Regardless, you are starting a new chapter and you more than likely have new found time on your hands. What are you going to do with it?
Get in shape. We often gain a little “happy fat” when we are in relationships. Knowing we will likely run into our ex again at some point is a great motivator to lose the weight and tone up. It is also good because we will likely start dating again, and feeling more attractive always helps. You might not be at a place you can wrap your mind around future partners yet though, so let’s stick with the present.
Revisit a hobby or project. There is something that we have been putting aside for the sake of investing in our relationship. Maybe you used to paint, make jewelry, or write. Maybe you have been meaning to accomplish a home project or go on a trip. Now is the time to throw yourself into it.
Catch up with friends and family. Every time you want to contact your ex, force yourself to contact a friend or family member that you haven’t talked to in a while instead. Talk about everything, except the breakup. It forces you to reestablish connections, strengthens your support network, and pushes your mind to focus on other topics. (It, also, keeps you from contacting your ex, which helps speed up the healing process.)
Educate yourself. Take a class. On any topic that interests you. Whether it is a cooking class, a Pilates class, or a class at the local college. You will not only be feeding your mind, but you will likely meet new people that you wouldn’t otherwise meet and are not related to your past relationship.
Put a little extra time in at work. It is an easy way to distract yourself and is putting effort in where it might be beneficial and extra money can come in handy.
In the grand scheme of things, breakups are a minor setback, not a final ending. You are too amazing to limit your chapters. Live a life worth looking back on and you will have no regrets, even if some chapters end up being shorter than you thought. It always takes a while to remove the love blinders. Do not be discouraged that other people don’t make you swoon right now. A person will come along at the right time and move you and surprise you. Don’t worry about looking for it. Just go out and explore and experience and be open to whatever the universe provides.
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(Source: datinglifelove.com)
